Two Years to Go...

"Know from whence you came. If you know whence you came, there are absolutely no limitations to where you can go."

- James Baldwin

10 years ago I felt stuck. I was trying my best in life, yet I just didn't seem to be making the progress I expected or hoped for. I decided I needed to look at where I had been in my life.

And then I looked at where I wanted to go-- who I wanted to be.

It would be another year before I really started to "come to myself" and make some necessary changes in my life. I met my handsome husband in September of 2007. We married in February 2008. We got off to a pretty good start, and things were just rolling along....yet along that road I started to lose myself again. I struggled to know what I was supposed to do or be as a stepmom and a wife. I struggled when I had a miscarriage. I was so thankful and blessed and happy to have a baby girl, yet then I struggled as a new mom. Preoccupied with all the ways I wasn't measuring up or frustrated that things weren't turning out as I imagined...or whatever else. I had so many blessings around me, yet I wasn't appreciating or recognizing them as well as I could have.

So two years ago, I realized I needed to have something to look forward to-- a destination of sorts to re-focus and re-evaluate and revitalize my life. Turning 40 is that destination. And I want to arrive being the best version of myself as possible. 

This has taken me to a level of progression in my life I have never experienced before. All those items in the "Be a Good Person" column are not just wishful thinking anymore-- I am actually exerting the necessary efforts to BECOME or absorb those attributes. The one that I am most grateful for and that has been among the most difficult: "Overcome Weaknesses".

Part of overcoming weaknesses is admitting you have them. And that has been rough for me. Even though I have good desires and want to be without fault, it took me realizing that I need to be honest with myself and to be humble to be able to successfully hurdle one of my most difficult weaknesses-- regulating my emotions. I made good progress in becoming more aware of myself in situations. And then it took a ridiculous experience to help me see that I needed even more help. That I was struggling from a mental illness of sorts-- a 'mild' form of depression-- and that I needed medication. SO hard to accept. I had tried for so long to fix things on my own. But I had to be humble and submissive and admit that I couldn't do it alone anymore. Important relationships were suffering because of this weakness.

The difference is amazing. I still don't fully understand it all, but I don't have to understand it to fully appreciate it and be thankful for modern medicine and for the opportunity to actually enjoy life as it is meant to be enjoyed. To have more presence of mind to act accordingly in difficult situations rather than react irrationally. It's not like I'm cured from all my weaknesses because of the medication-- the weaknesses and struggles are still there. Yet my ability to deal with them in a healthy way is increased substantially. As I mentioned to the psychologist I've visited a couple of times, "I feel like I have come to the next level of wholeness."

So now as I strive to make peace with my past, I am ready to face the future with faith and hope and love-- for myself, for all around me, and fully for my Heavenly Father and Savior by being truly obedient and trusting. :)